Comments on: I just don’t know what to do with myself

By: Millennium Housewife

Millennium Housewife — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 20:38:31 +0000

No one knows what goes on in anyone’s relationships, only what people tell them. I think any issue should be considered as to whether it’s a deal breaker or not (thanks Dr Phil), is this issue more than you signed up for/a misrepresentation of what you signed up for, and more importantly is it something you can forgive or change. Only you and n know that. MH x

By: nuttycow

nuttycow — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 17:05:59 +0000

All – thank you. I’m sorry I’ve been really slack at replying to comments. Head has been all over the place. Thank you though. Seriously.

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By: verybadcat

verybadcat — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 12:48:03 +0000

I’m currently waiting for my husband to decide whether or not our marriage is worth going to therapy for. I love him dearly. We’ve been together for twelve years and married for eight.

Bottom line: He can only love you as much as he loves himself.

xoxo

By: laura

laura — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 15:53:34 +0000

I’ve been with my fiance for 5 years & I know that I love him & he loves me but I wonder daily if we are in love. …not the most ideal situation.
But I think the most important question is, will you be happy in the long run? You’ve got to do what’s right for you.

By: TC

TC — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 14:49:36 +0000

underneath the gloss of someone on the outside looking in, whether they have problems too.

Everyone has their problems. That much is inevitable. But just how much you can deal with is up to you. Hopefully, regardless of if this means you and he stay together or not, you’ll end up happy.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 21:08:32 +0000

Everyone has ups and downs and struggles and wonders. Everyone. I think LizSara is right…figure out what you want to say and the WHYs and then talk to him.

By: scatterbrain

scatterbrain — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 20:48:06 +0000

I’ve always found that it all comes down to communicating well with each other.

Hope you manage to sort things out.

By: LizSara

LizSara — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 20:07:44 +0000

I think that everyone in any relationship goes through periods like this. The problems really start when you feeling like this outweighs you being happy with him still.

Are you looking for a future that’s attainable with him or are you searching for something that has never been there and that’s why it’s making you think this way?

I think your friend is right; make a list of what matters to you and what you want from a relationship and if he’s not or can’t give you that then you have an answer.

Talk to him sure, but only when you know what you want to say…there’s no point telling him you feel unhappy if you can’t tell him why

By: The Modern Gal

The Modern Gal — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 15:21:43 +0000

OMG. Are we dating the same person? Seriously, I’m not saying that to try to make you feel better, but I wrestle with these exact same thoughts. I know my boyfriend loves me, and I him, but his relationship with alcohol is a little too close for my comfort. And he goes through these manic-depressive stages that I know I can’t do anything about. I too wish he’d take the initiative to take care of his problems, but he won’t and I wonder if I can handle the strain from them for the rest of my life.